How Real is your Home and what makes it Undeniably ‘Yours’?
I think we’ve lost the knack for celebrating the lived in home.
We’re so over-exposed to phenomenal photographs in magazines, catalogues and online (I’m looking at you, Instagram feed) that we’re spending a fortune – and a lot of our time – creating spaces that lack heart and soul.
It’s not entirely our fault, of course. We’re just so used to seeing artificial interiors moments that we’re forgetting what it’s like to see a space and feel the soul and story in it.
With each new day, we yearn to snap that perfectly orchestrated image of our home for Instagram, moving things around so it’s looks as impressive as possible before we edit the photo within an inch of its life and post it online.
Do you have a lived in home with soul?
I worry that mine is lacking a little in this department. And again, it’s not entirely my fault.
One, I’m a decorating junkie. Two, I’m an design blogger. And three, I’m an interior stylist. It’s safe to say that I cast my eyeballs over so much gorgeous imagery each day – put together and photographed on a set – that I’ve forgotten what ‘homely’ looks and feels like. I’m getting better at it, but it’s still a tough gig.
I’m on a mission to turn this around in my own abode this year. And I’d love to get your thoughts on this topic in the comments below.
I can stand in the corner of my living room for 15 minutes, just staring at the room trying to figure out what’s ‘wrong’ with it. Perhaps it’s time to let go and just let all the pieces play together and sort themselves out.
My own home is lacking a bit
I think the main reason I feel my home is lacking soul is because I used to consume homewares on masse. Every season, I’d buy new bits and pieces and get rid of some of the old stuff.
I’ve come to realise that doing that has resulted in a home with little to no mementos. No special trinkets, no old collectables I couldn’t bare to part with. Just new and shiny things that hold no ‘heart and soul’ value. And those are not the things that make a house a home.
Have you fallen prey to this sort of consumption, too?
My partner is actually quite good in this regard. He tells me to just put everything out in our home regardless of whether I think it goes together.
See, I have a tonne of old art and frames and decor I worry won’t go together (again, the result of all that ‘perfect’ magazine imagery I see 24/7). But he says that I just need to get it all out, put it all up, and celebrate the eclecticism that it will bring to the room – even if it feels a bit mismatched to begin with.
He might be right.
Having been in my new home for a year now, I think it’s high time I start experimenting with the spaces a bit more, especially where personal mementoes are concerned.
Celebrating the daggy moments
I also think there’s something really sweet about the silly or daggy moments in a home. I often think they’re the moments that make it feel like a lived in home with heart.
I need to start doing this a bit more in my own pad. I just find it so hard. I know I have issues, but I can stand in the corner of my living room for 15 minutes, just staring at the room trying to figure out what’s ‘wrong’ with it.
Perhaps it’s time to let go and just let all the pieces play together and sort themselves out.
What makes your abode a lived in home?
Would you say that these are the pieces that create that soulful, homely feeling? Have you been in my position before; questioning every little design moment and worrying it won’t all work?
The funniest part about this – and I think it’s true for a lot of stylists – is that I can easily put together a space for someone else, but when it comes to doing it for myself I hit a wall.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you create a home with heart and soul and what pieces you own that you simply couldn’t bare to part with.
Drop a comment below and let me know what you think.
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(As you’ll notice, I’ve included some photos in this post from Schoolhouse Electric that I think feel SO soulful and homely. It’s a great place to steal some ideas from!)